Impulse control refers to the ability to regulate one’s immediate urges and desires in order to make thoughtful and rational decisions. It involves thinking before acting and considering the consequences of one’s actions. In toddlers, the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for impulse control, is still developing. This means that toddlers often act on their immediate desires and emotions without fully understanding or considering the consequences of their actions. They might grab toys from other children, throw tantrums when they are frustrated, or act out in other impulsive ways.

Through experiences, guidance, and consistent boundaries set by parents and caregivers, toddlers can start to learn basic impulse control skills. Teaching them about emotions, empathy, and appropriate ways to express themselves can also contribute to the development of impulse control over time. Keep in mind that each child is unique and may develop these skills at their own pace.

Here are some strategies to help toddlers with impulse control:

• Set clear and simple expectations– Toddlers respond well to clear and concise instructions. Use simple language and provide clear expectations for their behavior. For example, “We use gentle hands” or “We wait for our turn.”
• Create a safe and structured environment- Establish a safe and child-proof environment that minimizes the need for constant redirection. This allows toddlers to explore and play without unnecessary temptations or hazards.
• Distract and redirect– When you notice a toddler engaging in impulsive behavior, distract and redirect their attention to a more appropriate activity or toy. Offering an alternative can help divert their focus away from impulsive behavior.
• Use positive reinforcement– Praise and reward toddlers when they demonstrate self-control or make appropriate choices. Positive reinforcement, such as verbal praise or a small reward, encourages them to repeat the behavior.
• Teach simple coping strategies– Introduce simple coping strategies that toddlers can use when they feel overwhelmed or impulsive. For example, taking deep breaths, counting to three, or squeezing a stress ball can help them calm down and regain control.
• Provide sensory outlets– Offer sensory experiences that help toddlers release excess energy and manage their impulses. Activities like playing with clay, squeezing stress balls, or engaging in outdoor play can provide sensory input and promote self-regulation.
• Take your own temperature and practice patience– Developing impulse control takes time and patience. Your child is learning from you when it comes to managing emotions. 

Be consistent in your expectations and responses and provide gentle reminders and guidance when needed. Developing self-control is a gradual process, and children may still struggle at times. It’s important to approach their behavior with empathy and understanding. Stay calm, provide positive guidance, and celebrate their small victories along the way. Over time, toddlers will gradually improve their self-control skills.