Impulse control is the ability to pause, think, and choose a response rather than acting on an immediate urge. For young children, this skill is still developing, especially under age 3, when the part of the brain responsible for self-control is not yet mature. Even in the toddler and preschool years, children may struggle with waiting, sharing, or calming big feelings. That’s completely normal, learning impulse control takes time and practice.

Here are some simple ways you can support your child’s growth:

• Set clear and simple expectations. Use short phrases like “gentle hands” or “we wait our turn.” 
• Create a safe, structured space. A child-proofed environment reduces temptations and allows safe exploration. 
• Distract and redirect. If your child is heading toward trouble, offer a new toy or activity to shift their focus. 
• Use positive reinforcement. Praise or small rewards help children feel proud of making good choices. 
• Teach calming strategies. Show them how to take deep breaths, count to three, or squeeze a stress ball. 
• Offer sensory outlets. Clay, stress balls, or outdoor play can help release energy in healthy ways. 
• Model patience and consistency. Children learn by watching you. Stay calm, repeat expectations, and celebrate progress.

Remember, self-control doesn’t happen overnight. Toddlers and preschoolers will make mistakes as they learn, but with your patience, guidance, and encouragement, they’ll continue to grow stronger in managing their impulses. Stay calm, provide positive guidance, and celebrate their small victories along the way.