Tantrums. Meltdowns. Tears over the wrong color cup. If you’re parenting a young child, chances are you’ve seen some big feelings in action. The truth is, those intense emotions are normal and actually important. But helping kids navigate them is where we come in.

Here are a few simple ways to support your child through those overwhelming moments:

Stay Calm (Even When They’re Not)

Your child’s brain is still developing emotional regulation skills, and they borrow their calm from you. Deep breaths, soft tone, and a steady presence go a long way especially when they’re spiraling.

Name the Feeling

Putting a label on emotions helps kids understand them. Try, “You’re feeling really mad because your block tower fell. That’s frustrating!” When they hear you name it, they start to make sense of what’s going on inside.

Validate First, Problem-Solve Later

Let them feel heard before trying to fix it. “I know it’s hard when we have to leave the park. I get sad about leaving fun places too.” Once they feel understood, they’ll be more open to calming down or moving on.

Practice Coping Skills When They’re Calm

Teach simple calming strategies like counting to five, squeezing a stuffed animal, or blowing imaginary birthday candles. Practice during peaceful moments, so they’re ready when big feelings hit.

Be Patient, This Is a Process

Emotional regulation is a skill that takes years to build. Some days will feel like a win, others might not. But every time you show up with love and understanding, you’re helping your child learn how to manage life’s ups and downs.

Big feelings aren’t bad, they’re a sign that your child is learning, growing, and experiencing the world deeply. Your empathy and guidance are the most powerful tools they have as they learn to handle it all. You’ve got this and so do they!