Managing big emotions can be hard, even for adults! For young children, it’s even tougher because their brains are still developing and they may not yet have the words to explain what they feel. Frustration often shows up as anger, tantrums, or tears.

As loving caregivers, we can guide children toward self-regulation, the ability to manage emotions and recover after challenges. This skill is key to your child’s well-being now and in the future. Self-regulation is an important skill that helps children thrive in many areas of life. When children learn to manage their emotions, they are better able to focus and succeed in school. It also strengthens their relationships, as regulated children can play and connect more positively with others. Self-regulation encourages empathy by helping children understand their own emotions, which makes it easier for them to notice and care about the feelings of others. Finally, it builds resilience, allowing children to recover more quickly after outbursts and develop healthy ways to cope with challenges.

Here are Some Fun Ways to Explore Feelings

• Feelings Faces: Draw or use cards with happy, sad, angry, or scared faces. Ask, “Can you show me a time you felt like this?” 
• Role Play: Use dolls, stuffed animals, or puppets to act out different emotions and talk about what helps each one feel better. 
• Movement Games: Dance fast when you feel “excited,” slow when “calm,” or stomp feet when “angry”, then practice calming down together. 
• Feelings Art: Give your child crayons or paint and ask them to draw how they’re feeling. 
• Story Time: Read books about emotions and ask, “How do you think this character feels? What could help?”

Remember to stay calm yourself, praise effort, and practice daily. Your child won’t get it right every time, and that’s okay! With your support, they’ll learn healthy ways to understand and share their feelings.

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Gratitude is more than saying “thank you”, it’s noticing the good things in life and appreciating others. While young children may not fully understand gratitude yet, parents can model and nurture the foundations early. Teaching gratitude in everyday moments helps children build empathy, resilience, and stronger relationships.

1. Gratitude Starts with Modeling

• Children learn by watching. Let them see you say “thank you” to others.
• Narrate gratitude in simple ways: “I’m thankful for the sunshine today” or “I love how you shared your toy.”

2. Build Gratitude into Routines

• Bedtime rituals: Ask, “What made you happy today?”
• Mealtimes: Take turns naming something you’re thankful for.
• Transitions: When leaving a playdate, encourage a “thank you” to friends.

3. Use Play and Stories to Explore Gratitude

• Read picture books about kindness and thankfulness.
• Role-play with dolls or stuffed animals to practice giving and receiving thanks.
• Encourage children to draw pictures of people or things they appreciate.

4. Keep It Simple and Age-Appropriate

• Toddlers may only mimic “thank you” words. Celebrate it!
• Preschoolers can begin to connect gratitude with feelings (“I’m happy Grandma read to me”).
• Avoid forcing gratitude; focus on gentle encouragement and consistency.

Gratitude offers many benefits for young children as they grow and learn. It promotes positive social interactions by helping children recognize and appreciate the kindness of others. Gratitude also strengthens family connections, creating a sense of closeness and appreciation within the home. In addition, it encourages empathy and reduces entitlement, teaching children to notice the needs of others and value what they have rather than always wanting more.

Raising grateful hearts doesn’t require big lessons, just everyday moments of noticing, modeling, and celebrating thankfulness. With your guidance, your child can learn to see and appreciate the good around them, even in small things.

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Mindfulness isn’t just for adults; it can be a powerful tool for young children, too. And the good news? You don’t need silence, meditation cushions, or a perfectly still toddler to make it work.

Mindfulness means helping your child notice what’s happening in the moment, through their body, breath, and senses. These gentle, playful activities can calm big emotions, improve focus, and build strong parent-child bonds.

Children under five are learning how to handle emotions, changes, and transitions. Mindfulness gives them (and you!) tools to:

• Slow down and breathe
• Notice how they feel
• Calm their bodies
• Feel safe and connected

And best of all, it can fit into your daily routines.

Easy Mindfulness Activities to Try

1. Belly Breathing with a Stuffed Animal

Lay on the floor with your child and place a small stuffed animal on their belly. Say:
“Let’s watch it go up and down like a wave.”
Take 3–5 slow breaths together.

2. Five Senses Walk

Take a short walk and ask:

• “What do you see?”
• “What can you hear?”
• “Can you feel the wind or sun?”
• “Do you smell anything?”

This turns a simple walk into a moment of wonder.

3. Bubble Breathing

Blow bubbles and show your child how to take slow, deep breaths to blow big ones. Say:
“Let’s breathe in… and blow out slowly.”
It’s fun and calming!

4. Mindful Snacking

During snack time, pause to notice the color, smell, and texture of a fruit or cracker. Ask:

• “What does it look like?”
• “What does it feel like?”
• “Can we take a tiny bite and chew slowly?”

Mindfulness nurtures self-awareness, emotional regulation, patience, and attention, while strengthening the connection between you and your child. It offers tools for lifelong calm and confidence, and for parents, it creates small moments to breathe and reset. You don’t need a perfect moment, just a few quiet breaths, a walk outside, or a shared snack. These mindful pauses help your child feel calm, connected, and cared for. You’re not just raising a child, you’re raising a human who can notice their feelings, stay present, and grow with compassion, one deep breath at a time.

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Every child is wired to love and be loved, but did you know each child may feel that love in different ways? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages of Children, learning how your little one best receives love can build a deep and lasting connection.

Even toddlers and preschoolers show early signs of their “love language,” and tuning into them can help you meet their emotional needs more effectively.

What Are the 5 Love Languages?

1. Physical Touch– Your child thrives on hugs, cuddles, lap time, and holding hands.

2. Words of Affirmation– They light up when you say “I’m proud of you” or “You’re so kind!”

3. Quality Time– They want your undivided attention, playing, talking, or just being with you.

4. Gifts– Thoughtful surprises, even a rock from the park, make them feel special.

5. Acts of Service– They feel loved when you help fix a broken toy or tie their shoes with care.

How to Spot Your Child’s Love Language

Children under 5 may not clearly show just one love language but you might notice a preference. For example:

• Do they ask to be picked up a lot? (Physical Touch)
• Do they beam when you praise them? (Words of Affirmation)
• Do they follow you everywhere? (Quality Time)
• Do they keep small treasures? (Gifts)
• Do they often ask you for help with simple tasks? (Acts of Service)

It’s okay if your child seems to respond to all five, that’s common at this age. Over time, one or two may stand out more.

When you regularly “speak” your child’s love language, they feel safe, seen, and valued. As their need for connection is met, tantrums and clinginess may decrease, and their bond with you grows stronger. Meeting their unique emotional needs helps keep their “emotional tank” full and that sense of security becomes the foundation for learning, growing, and confidently exploring their world.

Your love is already there, learning to express it in the ways your child feels it most is like turning the volume up. Whether it’s snuggles, kind words, time together, tiny gifts, or helpful acts, each one sends the same message:
“You matter. You are loved.”

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In the busy world of parenting young children, big emotions, both theirs and ours, can show up quickly. The Circle of Security approach reminds us that our children don’t need perfection; they need connection. That’s where the idea of time-outs for us and time-ins for them becomes powerful.

Traditional time-outs often focus on stopping a child’s behavior by sending them away. But young children don’t learn best through isolation; they learn through co-regulation, which means calming with the help of a trusted adult. When a child is having a hard moment, a time-in gives them a safe space with us nearby, showing, “I’m here with you while you figure out these big feelings.” This builds security and teaches emotional regulation through connection, not separation.

At the same time, parents also need space to breathe. A time-out for us is not abandoning our child, it’s a healthy pause to steady ourselves. When we feel overwhelmed, stepping away for a moment helps us return as the calm, safe base our child needs.

Circle of Security teaches that when we are regulated, we can be our child’s secure anchor. Time-ins teach connection. Parent time-outs protect that connection. Together, they create a rhythm of safety, understanding, and emotional growth for both parent and child.

Here’s an example:

Your three-year-old throws a toy after being told it’s time to clean up. You feel your frustration rising.

• Instead of sending them to another room, you take a slow breath and say, “We’re both having big feelings right now. I’m going to take a quick break to calm my body, and then we’ll sit together.” You step aside for a moment to breathe. This is your parent time-out.
• When you return, you gently sit next to your child and say, “I’m here. That was a big feeling. Let’s calm together.” This time-in lets your child know they are not alone with their emotions.

They learn: Feelings are okay, and I have a safe place to go when I don’t know what to do with them.

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Impulse control is the ability to pause, think, and choose a response rather than acting on an immediate urge. For young children, this skill is still developing, especially under age 3, when the part of the brain responsible for self-control is not yet mature. Even in the toddler and preschool years, children may struggle with waiting, sharing, or calming big feelings. That’s completely normal, learning impulse control takes time and practice.

Here are some simple ways you can support your child’s growth:

• Set clear and simple expectations. Use short phrases like “gentle hands” or “we wait our turn.” 
• Create a safe, structured space. A child-proofed environment reduces temptations and allows safe exploration. 
• Distract and redirect. If your child is heading toward trouble, offer a new toy or activity to shift their focus. 
• Use positive reinforcement. Praise or small rewards help children feel proud of making good choices. 
• Teach calming strategies. Show them how to take deep breaths, count to three, or squeeze a stress ball. 
• Offer sensory outlets. Clay, stress balls, or outdoor play can help release energy in healthy ways. 
• Model patience and consistency. Children learn by watching you. Stay calm, repeat expectations, and celebrate progress.

Remember, self-control doesn’t happen overnight. Toddlers and preschoolers will make mistakes as they learn, but with your patience, guidance, and encouragement, they’ll continue to grow stronger in managing their impulses. Stay calm, provide positive guidance, and celebrate their small victories along the way.

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Ever wonder why your toddler throws their food, has a meltdown over socks, or suddenly hits a sibling for no reason? It might seem random, but most behavior in young children is actually a message in disguise.

That’s where becoming a behavior detective comes in. Instead of reacting right away, you pause, look for clues, and try to understand what your child is really telling you.

Behavior Is Communication

For young children, language is still developing. So instead of saying, “I’m tired,” “I feel left out,” or “That’s too loud,” they might cry, push, hide, or scream. Their behavior is their way of asking for help or expressing an unmet need.

Ask Yourself These 3 Questions:

1. What happened before the behavior?
   Did something trigger your child like hunger, frustration, or a transition? 
2. What might my child be feeling?
   Are they tired, overstimulated, bored, anxious, or needing attention? 
3. What do they need in this moment?
   Comfort, connection, a break, a snack, or help with a big feeling?

For Example:

The Behavior: Your 4-year-old suddenly dumps all the puzzle pieces on the floor and yells, “This is boring!”

What’s Beneath the Surface?

• They may feel overwhelmed because the puzzle is too hard.
• They may need connection, maybe they want you to play with them.
• They may be tired and unable to focus.

Behavior Detective Response:
“Looks like that puzzle felt really frustrating. Do you want a different activity, or would you like me to help you with it?”

When you act like a behavior detective, you help your child feel understood instead of punished, learn how to name and manage their feelings, and build trust and emotional safety. And you’ll feel more confident, too, because you’re responding with intention, not just reacting. Your child isn’t giving you a hard time; they’re having a hard time. When you look beneath the behavior, you build connection and teach the skills they need to grow.

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Parenting a toddler or preschooler can feel like a rollercoaster. One minute they’re snuggling in your lap, the next they’re melting down over the wrong color cup. It’s easy to feel unsure about how to handle all the big feelings and boundary-pushing that come with early childhood. That’s where positive discipline comes in.

What Is Positive Discipline?

Positive discipline is not about punishment. It’s about teaching, guiding, and building connections with your child while setting clear and respectful boundaries. It helps young children learn how to manage their emotions, follow rules, and develop problem-solving skills, all in a safe, nurturing environment.

Why It Works for Ages 0–5

At this stage, children are still learning how to express themselves and what behavior is expected. Their brains are developing rapidly, especially the areas related to impulse control and emotions. Positive discipline works with your child’s development, not against it.

Key Strategies for Positive Discipline

1. Connect Before You Correct
   Get down to their level. Use eye contact and a calm tone. Kids listen better when they feel seen and safe.
2. Set Clear, Simple Limits
   Use short, age-appropriate phrases: “We use gentle hands,” or “It’s time to clean up.”
3. Offer Choices
   Giving toddlers choices helps them feel a sense of control: “Would you like the red cup or the blue cup?”
4. Redirect and Teach
   Instead of “No hitting,” say, “Hands are for helping. Let’s take a break together and calm down.”
5. Stay Consistent
   Young children thrive on routine and predictability. Gentle repetition helps them learn what to expect. 

Positive discipline helps your child:

• Build self-regulation
• Feel safe and connected
• Learn boundaries through kindness
• Grow up with empathy and confidence 

And it helps you:

• Feel calmer and more confident as a parent
• Strengthen your bond with your child
• Guide behavior without yelling, shaming, or power struggles 

Positive discipline isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being present, patient, and willing to repair when things go sideways (because they will!). With love, limits, and lots of practice, your little one will learn and grow, and so will you.

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To adults, play might look like just fun and games, but for young children, play is powerful work. It’s how they explore the world, make sense of their emotions, and build the foundation for learning and relationships.

The Brain on Play

Play activates multiple parts of a child’s developing brain. Whether they’re stacking blocks, pretending to be a doctor, or racing toy cars, they are:

• Strengthening problem-solving and attention
• Building language and motor skills
• Practicing emotional regulation and social connection

According to the Harvard Center on the Developing Child, play is a core experience that helps children build the skills they need for school and life including creativity, flexibility, and self-control.

Play Builds Emotional Strength

Through play, children:

• Express big feelings in a safe way (e.g., acting out fear, excitement, or frustration)
• Practice coping skills (like trying again after a tower falls)
• Learn empathy and cooperation through imaginary and social play

How Parents Can Support Play

• Follow their lead: Let your child choose the activity and guide the play.
• Join in without taking over: Sit on the floor and enter their world.
• Make time for unstructured play every day, even 15–20 minutes.

You don’t need fancy toys. Cardboard boxes, spoons, or dress-up clothes can spark hours of learning and connection.

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From the very beginning, children are wired to seek safety, connection, and reassurance from their caregivers. Building trust and a secure relationship with your child is one of the most powerful gifts you can give them, and it starts early and evolves as they grow.

Infants (0–1 year): Safety Through Presence

In the first year, babies learn whether the world is a safe place based on how caregivers respond to their needs. When you consistently comfort your baby, respond to their cries, and hold them close, you’re helping form the foundation of secure attachment.

At this stage, predictability and gentle attunement like eye contact, holding, and soothing routines, help build a sense of safety.

Toddlers (1–3 years): Connection and Exploration

Toddlers are curious explorers, constantly going between independence and needing reassurance. Trust is built by being a safe base they can return to, especially when they’re overwhelmed.

According to the Circle of Security, your job is to be “bigger, stronger, wiser, and kind”, able to follow their lead when appropriate and take charge when needed.

• Validate big emotions, even if behavior needs guidance.
• Offer choices when possible, to build confidence.
• Maintain consistent boundaries with kindness.

Preschoolers (4–5 years): Emotional Coaching

As children’s imaginations and social worlds expand, so do their emotional needs. They might experience fears, jealousy, or frustration and they need help understanding what they’re feeling.

• Listen with empathy, even when correcting behavior.
• Use simple language to name feelings.
• Model repair by apologizing and reconnecting after conflict.

Trust is Built Over Time

No parent is perfect, and you don’t need to be. Trust grows through repairing mistakes, showing up again, and being willing to learn. The key isn’t to prevent all discomfort, but to be the person who helps your child understand and navigate it.

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